When 'warp speed with hair on fire' becomes HALT.......you get a bit of perspective. And I'm 'lucky' enough to have people in my life who aren't afraid to just say what's true.
Lucky me? :-/
I can fend for myself 'enough'. Just as well--I lost my little helper to the stomach flu about 3pm. I hated to inform the 'guests' that appeared at the door at noon of that fact, but there ya have it! Oh, the price they could be paying for their 'goodwill'. We'll hope not!
It was good. My three leadership folks landed at the house to get 'supervised' they tell me. *laughing* Actually, they landed to try to persuade me to give the 'approval' for something I'd originally 'disapproved'.
I had to listen--bit of a captive audience there on the couch with crutches 'over there' in the kitchen.
And I had to look at my 'standing in during my absence' and tell her she's present in the circumstances and I really DO trust her judgement....so YES. It took all of about a minute.
Bit of a surreal moment for them--bit of a revealing moment for me.
I really DO think I can control from the chair/couch/computer! *laughing*
I'm NOT THERE. I simply need to support the folks that are--encourage, endorse, empower.
DUH.
And, because I had the foresight to hire people for leadership who are a 'tad' like ME--they had no problem pointing out that I 'needed to slow down' and that they were hoping that message had gotten delivered through the circumstances.
Of course I do massive denial!
"DO NOT look at your pile of STUFF while exiting to your car." Message received.
(me and my stupid habit of inventorying what I left at the worksite AS I'm headed to the car......wouldn't most people do that BEFORE they left the building?!)
Yeah, well......they didn't think that was the message.
Whadda they know?!
I'm a "warp speed with my hair on fire" kinda gal. The Big Guy made me that way for a reason. And really, it's served me and Him very well.
But He's inclined to use deficits to His/our advantage while whittling away at another one that gets in the way of our usefulness and effectiveness.
Maybe we're down to this one now?
:-/
I'd prefer we work on my 'thinking I can control the world and everyone in it' deficit.
Oh wait......maybe this is a two-fer deal?
OH great.........
(oh, yes....silly ME.....I shall go BACK to reference the fairies of the morning!......at some point.....) *laughing*
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" I simply need to support the folks that are--encourage, endorse, empower."
That was one of my most challenging things to learn when I was in management. To empower and then trust those in command when I was not present.
Oh...and letting go of control.
Which was VERY challenging for me because I felt that if I let go of control, it wouldn't get done properly. Or rather MY way - HA!
Hope you're leg is healing well, dear lady!
(((((((( You )))))))))
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Hi Mel,
Believe me or believe me not, your accident has been not only a physical pain but also a real "learning tool".
Trust,confidence and release are like buzz words until something gives them a kick to get moving...
See where the experience will lead you when you are off the couch.
xox
It is so hard to let others get on with things! I struggle with that...probably not helped by the fact that when I do trust others to get on with it what I have got back in the past was pretty shoddy! Still, it's not always that way and I have to remember that!
C x
i've never been a manager of people since managing linda is a full-time position...maybe one of these daze but now i sorta like it without anyone's waiting me to tell them what's right or wrong or not or yes or whatever or stick it...sorry but i am very sore!! dummy dog, dummy owner i guess really.... i knocked myself out trying to make the bella behave herself and she weighs about 10lbs less than me. stupid...talk about managing...try that on for "size"...
anyway sweetie mel, are you doing ok sitting around and hobbling around on the crutches...i hate the things...hope for you a walking cast soon! ok, must go sit and watch a movie "the help" tho i am not a movie watcher in the slightest i am forced to sit here. sigh....i am so sore, even my fingers hurt. course they do, i was gripping the stupid leash...stupid is a woman who thinks she's strong enough for anything, even big hairy white dogs!! who are younger... too.... xoxoxo
I love the way you make the most of every 'opportunity'. ('Course, this is just a well practiced control strategy :)
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