Points for Good Etiquette!!

*coughcoughcoughcough* *sigh*

Right.

• Anti-biotic number two (seems number one was a disappointment to the doc)


• cough syrup expectorant with drug stuff in it


• cough suppressant without drug stuff in it


• inhaler number one


• inhaler number two


• steriods

Yeah, well......I was all dressed up and ready for work.
At least this time I actually DID my hair instead of just yanking it back and saying 'pffffffft' to the whole works?

She did tell me I 'looked better'.
She also had to give me different directions.....cuz I followed the other ones, apparently.
"How many times have you used the inhaler?"
3........4 maybe.
"A day? Good."
Ummm......no.....in total since Monday? *coughcough*
"3-4 times a day as needed, right?"
Figured I only 'needed' it three.......four times, maybe?
"Let's try that again--you NEED it four times a day."
Ah....k.......got it! *coughcoughcoughcough*
"And how do you feel about steriods? I think we ought to use those over the long weekend."
No plan to compete in Olymic horseshoes--I'm good with steriods then.
"And a different antibiotic--I'm disappointed you're still running a temperature."
I am?
"You are."
But I feel BETTER than Monday. *coughcoughcoughcoughcough*
"And let's do another breathing treatment while I'm calling in the order."
Seriously...... Seriously? I feel better. *coughcough*
"You look better--but that cough needs to be gone. And you're still pretty tight."
*coughcoughcoughcoughcoughcough*
"And you're using the cough syrup?"
*nodding*
"Four times a day?"
.......as needed?
"You NEED it four times a day....And are you getting sleep?"
When I'm not coughing. Do NOT take expectorant at bed time--bad plan.....*coughcoughcough*
"And I'll order you up a suppressant for bedtime."
Bedtime. NOT four times during the night.....

She laughed.
And then she told me she'd see me on Tuesday..... "No problems missing work until Tuesday, right?"
*coughcoughcoughcoughcough*
"Good girl!"

*coughcoughcoughcoughscowlcoughcoughcough*

HAPPY Triffid

Nope--no super duper secret, miracle growing plant food has happened here.

THIS is the result after 25 days of himself talking to Triffid, checking on Triffid, watering Triffid.....encouraging Triffid....and occasionally playfully threatening Triffid. *ahem*

k.....not strange for this household. I pet my outside plants. (don't ask....)
And this is after just 25 DAYS. Holy cow.....

Oh. And just for the record--himself transplanted Triffid (on my suggestion....taken seriously when the wee pot he had Triffid is was found on its side rollin' around the patio one windy afternoon..LOL) on the very same day the neighbor put his 2 tomato plants in his garden.
NOT that it matters......but himself's Triffid has 11 tomatoes started and a bazillion blossoms.
The neighbor (whose plant came WITH a tomato on it) has three on one plant and a whopping one on the other.

Himself was a bit discouraged until I scoped out the goods and informed him that Triffid was wayyyyyyyyyyy ahead of the game. We have a happy tomato plant with all the company and conversation. The poor neglected neighbor's plants that sit allllllll alone in that big, lonely garden... .....notsomuch...... Poor things......

Soooo....no need to use a be be gun to shoot out the existing LONE big tomato on that plant of the neighbors, nor will it be necessary to clip off that big tomato and leave a note that some rogue squirrel did it, NOR will there be a need to buy a HUGE red plastic tomato and attach it to Triffid--he's a happy little producing tomato plant!

k......those were just three of the creative interventions to the healthy competition goin' on here.

*laughing*

I said healthy? LOL Who am I foolin'..... LOLOL

Fairy Dust

We can let ourselves go a little now and then. We can loosen up a bit. We don't have to be so stiff and rigid, so frightened about being who we are. Take some risks. Try some new activities. What would we like to do? What might we enjoy doing? Then, take another risk. Pick out a movie we'd like to see; call a friend, and invite him or her to go along. If that person says no, try someone else, or try again another time.

Decide to try something, and then go through with it. Go once. Go twice. Practice having fun until fun becomes fun.

Center Stage

Right.....

These past six days have not been exactly 'fun'.
But....

BUT!!!!

<-- pulled out the coloured pencils and pretties to colour
<-- read some
<-- coloured some more

<-- tried not to talk

<-- talking=coughing fits

*sigh*

And tomorrow I get to see the doc again.
She better let me go back to work!!

k.....or else.
Or else--
Ummmm....

I've got some time--I can come up with an 'or else'!

*thinking*

<-- is a creative thinker!

Today's Thought

To have one's individuality completely ignored is like being pushed quite out of life. Like being blown out as one blows out a light. --Evelyn Scott

We need to know that we matter in this life.
We need evidence that others are aware of our presence.
And thus, we can be certain that others need the same attention from us.
When we give it, we get it.
So the giving of attention to another searching soul meets our own need for attention as well.

Respectful recognition of another's presence blesses that person and ourselves.
And we help one another grow, in important ways, each time we pay the compliment of acknowledgment.
We're not sure, on occasion, just what we have to offer our friends, families, co-workers.
Why we are in certain circumstances may have us baffled, but it's quite probably that the people we associate with regularly need something we can give them; the reverse is just as likely.

So we can begin with close attention to people in our path.
It takes careful listening and close observation to sense the message another soul may be sending to our own.

Eight...yup, counting...

Fairy Reminder

What do you do when life seems to force you to react?

You can panic, become anxious, yell, and respond with a counterattack.

But that probably won't solve the problem.

And it may turn things into a brawl.

Or you can calm down.

Breathe deeply.

Tell yourself to relax.

Say as little as possible, if that's possible, while you're upset and disturbed.

If a problem or disturbance that's not fair interrupts your life, try responding by saying hmmm.

Then calm down and decide what you need to do.

Unapproved Snack

oy gevalt.....

Right.

1 breathing treatment and threats of a second
2 chest xrays
3 vials of blood
AND the verdict is--acute bronchitus.
Ruled out pnemonia for this moment in time, thankyouverymuch.

Yeah well.....Great fun.
Well, not so great fun for the immune deficient person--especially when accompanied by a not so nice infection of the upper respiratory type.

Good news is I have drugs up the whazoo.
Bad news--I have drugs up the whazoo.
And I got a 'no workie until after Thursday's 10:15 appointment' verdict.
Very funny nurse.
(Yes. She's still breathing.)

I, on the other hand, am still having difficulties in that department.
But (!!!) I have drugs for that......

.......rawwwwrrrrrrrr...........

Today's Fairy Thought

It may seem simplistic to blame our problems on how we ourselves think.

After all, others are participating in our lives too.

But only we have the power to interpret the experiences we're having.

And we can decide to accept every experience as an opportunity for growth and an adventure.

Yellowy Bits

Fairy Wisdom

A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone.

-- D. Thoreau

Conscious, careful selection of those activities, situations, or people to whom we'll devote attention is all that separates centered, serene people from harried men and women.

All of us are bombarded by myriad requests for some form of personal involvement.

The temptation is great to attend to first one thing and then another, passively and superficially.

However, our lives are enriched only when we commit ourselves to a deeper level of involvement, and to the few, rather than the many.

The talent given each of us shines forth if it's been nurtured, coddled, encouraged.

We must become immersed enough in a project or an experience to lose self-conscious reservations if we're to discover the real weight of our talent.

We know ourselves fully only when we're able to let the talent within define the posture without.

*hugging Puffs*

<-- bonding with Puffs with aloe.......AGAIN

*sigh*

I'm freakin' falling apart.....

The Universe in Life

Wishing Fairy Reading

I wish I were big enough to honestly admit all my shortcomings.

Brilliant enough to accept praise without it making me arrogant.

Tall enough to tower over dishonesty.

Strong enough to welcome criticism.

Compassionate enough to understand human frailties.

Wise enough to recognize mistakes.

Humble enough to appreciate greatness.

Brave enough to stand by my friends.

Human enough to be thoughtful of my neighbor.

And spiritual enough to be devoted to the love of God.

-- Author unknown --

Reading for the Day

Listening is one of the gifts we give to each other. Listening is also one of the gifts we give to ourselves. As we listen to others and learn from them, we stop thinking we are the center of the universe. Listening to others - to truly hear what they say, to learn from them - helps keep our egos in check. We should frequently ask ourselves, "Am I practicing the skills of active listening?"

Dinner on the Barbie

Things that make me happy

....sayin' *pffffffttt* to paperwork and hauling a not so thrilled kiddo outside to weed and plant flowers.

....watching the 'all that and a bag of chips' kiddo scream "OMG WORMS!!!!!!" and throw the trowel full of dirt and hop around like a scared rabbit. *snickering*

....being serenaded by the attorney 'neighbor' who sings with THE most lovely baritone voice WHILE you're weeding with a worm phobic kiddo.

....greeting a newly assigned social worker who stopped to watch us work--with dirty hands and a muddy butt. *laughing*

....hearing "How about if I bring in some mulch--wow, you're doing a great job!" from the landlord of the property.

....suddenly having six volunteer kiddos who WANT to weed the flowerbed. *snickering* (same kiddos who 'passed' two hours earlier, mindyou)

....answering the cell phone call with 'Sorry--can't talk now.....muddy hands and butt!'.

....surveying a freshly weeded flowerbed and hearing the worm phobic 'all that and a bag of chips' kiddo say "We done GOOD!!"

Daily Reading

Don't miss out on today's learning experiences.

They won't come again.

We will never have another day exactly like today, so let's take advantage of the lessons we're offered.

We don't like to make mistakes, and we don't like to be in situations that are fraught with stress, but mistakes and distress seem to go along with being human and alive.

Both can be turned into sound learning experiences.

We don't learn if we try to deny or ignore the situation we don't like or don't handle well.

How much better if we can accept the difficulty, see how we have contributed to it, and arrive at a positive course of action.

And how often it helps to talk about the problem with someone else instead of pridefully insisting on muddling through alone.

Very likely, we will discover that today's richest learning experiences are those we share with others.

I will accept the lessons today offers and share them with someone else so that we both can grow.

Backroad Blues

*stomping and singing*

*ready to stomp the feet!!*

What will we do with the drunken sailor?
What will we do with the drunken sailor?
What will we do with the drunken sailor?
Earl-lie in the morning?

Put 'im in a longboat til he gets sober
Put 'im in a longboat til he gets sober
Put 'im in a longboat til he gets sober
Earl-lie in the morning.

Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Earl-lie in the morning.

Give 'im a hair of the dog that bit 'im
Give 'im a hair of the dog that bit 'im
Give 'im a hair of the dog that bit 'im
Earl-lie in the morning.

Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Earl-lie in the morning

Hoist 'im up to the topsail yardarms
Hoist 'im up to the topsail yardarms
Hoist 'im up to the topsail yardarms
Earl-lie in the morning

Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Earl-lie in the morning

Oh, what will we do with a drunken sailor?
What will we do with a drunken sailor?
What will we do with a drunken sailor?
Earl-lie in the morning

Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Earl-lie in the morning

Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Hoo rie and up she rises
Earl-lie in the morning

TFTD

Of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these, "It might have been."
--John Greenleaf Whittier

Unless we live in the now, we are in danger of suffering the agony of regret.

We can't spend all our time thinking "life's not fair."

We cannot afford to excuse everything with "what ifs?"

We used those words constantly during the years we wasted on doing things we knew could destroy us.

We remember the years before and accept them as object lessons of what it could be like again if we become careless or complacent.

But we don't regret them.

Regret only leads to depression and perhaps a return to poor decision making.

We must stop dwelling on the impossibility of undoing the wrongs of yesterday.

Instead, we must begin enjoying the "right things" that are now possible.

It is impossible to relive my past. I can only create a good past now by living this day the best way I can, so that tomorrow I can look back without having to say "It might have been."

Wadin' Pool with a View

Fairy Reading for the Day

Name-calling, harmful gossip, intentional put-downs, hateful rejections no longer provide the perverse pleasure of years gone by.

We now recognize the subtle joy of sincere and loving efforts.

We find this joy in calling a friend who is faced with a painful decision, picking up groceries for an elderly neighbor, extending our friendship to the new person at work.

We no longer need the fear of what others will think to curb our spiteful actions.Our conscience may still guide our actions at times, but as we grow we begin to intuitively know what keeps us on track and in sync with right living.

Yup--one of those......

I'm starting to feel like one of 'those' old people.

Yaknow.....one of 'those'.....

I listen to himself fall apart on a daily basis. His joints. His headaches--allergies. (welcome to the midwest....*sigh*) The heat. (I'm the one with hot-flashes....*shaking head*) Seriously--he thinks 78 is hot?!

And I need to stop this mental 'stuff' that runs through my head.
Last weeks sore ribs--pretty sure I snapped one with the shoveling I was doing when we were edging the sidewalk. Sure felt like the *pop* that comes with displacement or fracture. Not the smartest think I've ever done, that's for sure.
Fallin' apart, I tell ya....
Sheesh.
I'm figuring all that coughing that came with the upper respiratory made 'em ripe for the undoing.
Dunno......
What I DO know is (excuse my candidness here.....) underwire bras--a definite 'no-no'. NOT that they ever shoulda been a 'yes-yes!'...

I have more aches than I want.
And more complaints that I care to air.
So I don't. *laughing*
'Cept maybe I do when I whip off the stupid underwire and announce they're the work of the devil and fling 'em into the oblivion of the bedroom?

Wellllll....
They COULD be the work of the devil.....
Ya never know!

Just sayin'......

Fairy Reminder

Some days, every aspect of my life seems overwhelming and crazy, and I feel so confused.

On these days, I need to remember that I only have to do what needs to be done today.

I do not have to worry about next week, next month, or next year - only what needs to be done today.

I can make a list of things to do.

When I finish something on my list, I can cross it off and feel proud of what I've accomplished, even if it's as simple as doing the dishes or making a phone call.

When I accomplish something, I can be proud of myself.

Chocolate coffee

Yeah, well...that's what she calls it.
She decided it wasn't required to have bottoms on to go patio sitting.
Darn lucky the top happened. *laughing*

Happy Grandad's Day, Father's Day, 'Get to be the Dad, too' Day!!

Grandad's got on his super duper 'lights up and sings a song' button from the Bug AND he got a really cool train for the bitty railroad... soooo--his day is complete!
k.....

<-- gonna go for a coffee now--minus the chocolate. ;-)

Gimme a 'C'!.....Gimme an 'O'...

Reading for The Day

What we consider our greatest strengths can also be our greatest weaknesses.

Excessive pride in "being able to handle everything," for example, may result in our taking on other people's responsibilities. In "taking over," we often lessen another's desire to meet his or her own obligations.

A boastful "I'll do it myself!" attitude can also mask a desperate feeling of inadequacy. Having a constant drive to prove our worth to others, we may trample on, or ignore, the needs of those around us who are just as eager to exhibit their competency and worth.

What are some other examples of virtues becoming vices?

Determination, to excess, becomes obstinacy and stubbornness. Honesty, when misdirected, is synonymous with gossip and slander. Sympathy and concern, overdone, can cripple and smother.

TODAY I will make a list of ten of my strengths and weaknesses. How has acting on each of these virtues and vices created joy or sorrow in my life? I will be aware that my strengths can be my worst enemies if I abuse them.

Goin' with the flow..

Fairy Reading

Often, we deny that we have done anything that requires forgiveness. Nothing scares a human being more than the acknowledgment of wrongdoing. We have been convinced that to commit a wrong is bad. Who wants to be bad? You get spanked for being bad. You can get hurt for being bad. Some of us even believe that if you are bad enough, you cannot be forgiven.
The truth is, the things we call wrong or bad are actually our cries for correction. The way to correction is through the acknowledgment of the truth. The way the Spirit of love and life corrects the spirit of human beings is through forgiveness.
When you are willing to acknowledge that you can do better, you become willing to admit to yourself those things for which you need to be forgiven.

Until today, you may have resisted acknowledging those things about you which you know require some correction. Just for today, acknowledge them to yourself. Forgive yourself for them. Then, ask forgiveness from anyone else who may have been involved.

Makin' Hay with the Fluffery Thingy

Things that make me happy

....Fridays! Woooohoooooo!!! (that's today, right? LOL)

....LIGHTENING BUGS!!! Woooooohooooooo!!!!

....Fridays!!!! (k....mighta mentioned that...)

....whizzing paper airplanes.

....Fridays!!! (worthy of mentioning more than once, incaseyouwerewonderin'....)

....brilliant red sunrises.

....flowery things on Triffid. :-)

....making our own humming birdie food. (you can colour it whatever colour ya want!)

....Mr. Bunny watching the neighbor hoe his garden. *snickering*

Today's Fairy Reading

The goal is to find the balance: we take responsibility for ourselves, and we identify our true responsibilities to others.

This may take some sorting through, especially if we have functioned for years on distorted notions about our responsibilities to others. We may be responsible to one person as a friend or as an employee; to another person, we're responsible as an employer or as a spouse. With each person, we have certain responsibilities. When we tend to those true responsibilities, we'll find balance in our life.

We are also learning that while others aren't responsible for us, they are accountable to us in certain ways.

We can learn to discern our true responsibilities for ourselves, and to others. We can allow others to be responsible for themselves and expect them to be appropriately responsible to us.

We'll need to be gentle with ourselves while we learn.

Busy Buzzy

Today's Reading

When others act irresponsibly and attempt to blame their problems on us, we no longer feel guilty. We let them face their own consequences.

When others talk nonsense, we don't question our own thinking.

When others try to manipulate or exploit us, we know it's okay to feel anger and distrust and to say no to the plan.

When others tell us that we want something that we really don't want, or someone tells us that we don't want something that we really do want, we trust ourselves.

When others tell us things we don't believe, we know it's okay to trust our instincts.

We can even change our mind later.

We don't have to give up our personal power to anyone: strangers, friends, spouses, children, authority figures, or those over whom we're in authority.

People may have things to teach us. They may have more information than we have, and may appear more confident or forceful than we feel. But we are equals. Our magic is not in them. Our magic, our light, is in us. And it is as bright a light as theirs.

Stormy Walk

Oy......

When I'm mad do other people know it?
BOY howdy do they know it.

Don't bother trying to justify, rationalize or make excuses for doing what I directly told you NOT to do. Putting a bow on it and calling it something other than the manipulative crap it is, doesn't make it NOT manipulative CRAP that I told you NOT TO DO.
YES. I'm PISSED OFF.
I can love ya dearly--and still be pissed off.

Next topic.

And when I was told it wasn't two people, but all THREE that did what I told them NOT to do--

I appreciate you letting me know that.
Meeting ENDED.

Do people know when I'm mad....oh yeah.....

I've taken multiple walks.
I've said what I need to say.

Now I'll get to let it go.

O
M
G

Maybe another walk........

Fairy Reminder

Your subconscious mind is a twenty-four-hour photographer, recording every item you see. It is important to your mental, emotional and spiritual health that the things you see create images in your mind of who you are or what you want to be. Your environment should reconfirm your identity and the things you want. Is your home peaceful? Orderly? Safe? Are there pictures and artifacts that reflect the images you aspire to live up to? Does your work environment promote your creativity? Does it foster healthy communication? Does it look like a place you want to be? Like to be? Need to be? Is your social environment relaxing? Are you with the type of people you want around you? Do your family and friends support you and make you feel welcomed? Important? Free? Or are you restricted? Oppressed? Unproductive? You can only live up to the images in your mind. Make sure that what you see does not keep you in a place you do not want to be.

My world promotes my growth and true identity.

Triffid's Progress

TFTD

We create problems for ourselves because we think we need to be more than we are. We fear that we are inadequate to the task before us, fear that someone else is more attractive, fear that the friends around us are bored by our presence.Fear hinders us; it prevents full involvement with the experiences we are given to grow on.

When we withdraw from a situation in order to save ourselves from failure, we have chosen instead another kind of failure: failure to take all we can from life; failure to be all that we can be. Every experience can move us forward in the understanding of ourselves. When we withdraw, we stay stuck in a world we need to leave behind.

I will not fear whatever looks like trouble today. Nothing I can't handle, in fact, nothing I can't grow from will come my way today.

The room with a handy dandy food source

Fairy Reading

We already know what we're not doing and why. We already know where we haven't been and why we cannot go there. We already know what we don't know and why we haven't learned it. We already know how we messed up and what happened because of it. We already know who we hurt and how we did it. We already know the chapter and verse of what is wrong with us. We know it so well that we have probably lost sight of all the things that are right. For some strange reason, it is not always easy to give yourself credit when and where it is due, to give yourself the benefit of the doubt or to take your neck out of the noose so that you can move forward.

Just for today, offer yourself the love and acceptance you need to move yourself beyond who you have not been and what you did not do.

Northwest Winds

Today's Reading

The world is not happening to us. We are happening to it. We are molding it, shaping it, creating the good and the bad. Sooner or later we will get tired of what we are doing and will do something else. When we get tired of hate, we will stop living in fear. When we get tired of injustice we will stop judging one another. When we get tired of violence we will stop aggression in all forms. When we get rid of criticism, cynicism and victimization we will live in truth, take responsibility for what we do and stop blaming each other. When we get sick and tired of the chaos in the world perhaps we will begin to love our brother as we love ourselves.

Victims 1 and 2...and 3 and 4......

Yuummm.

No. Mel did not make the chicken.
Mel made the mess in the front of the house though!

And himself came out and helped clear up the mess.

And we live on a corner lot because........

OH!!
<-- can answer this one!!
Because you have more snow than your neighbor to shovel AND you have more sidewalk to edge!!

<-- gets points for knowing the answer!!

k.....sidewalks edged.

I have the groaning noises as proof.
*nodding*

His and her groans. *laughing*

BUT!

B U T ! ! ! !

We had grilled chicken AND marshmallows!

k.....I had one marshmallow.

One HUGE marshmallow.

Yummmmm!!!!

'Cuse me while I groan and go fetch a cuppa coffee.....

Fairy Thought

In equal relationships, people are honest and take responsibility for themselves.They tell the truth and don't lie, make excuses, or blame others for their behavior. They can admit their mistakes and admit when they're wrong. They communicate openly, directly, and honestly. They say what they mean without being mean. Equal relationships don't contain deceit and manipulation.Today I will make sure that I'm being honest in my life, and this includes not avoiding the truth. I will admit when I'm wrong or have made a mistake. I will not take the blame for others, but I will take responsibility for myself. Being able to be honest and accountable for myself is an essential part of an equal relationship.

Dangitall.....

TRY as I might--I can't capture poor Arnie Hummer.

He's trying to enjoy my Coke on the patio and can't quite figure out how to take that lid off. *laughing*

The hummers are back!!!

Woooohooooooo!!!

Quilt Barn #35

Daily Reading

Reality is not our bane but our gift. The particular reality perceived by any one of us is of special significance because in that reality are our lessons - the very lessons that will awaken us to the awareness that what life offers is just what we deserve, and more.

Back to basics

When I find myself 'here', I know where my feet are.
I don't always know how I got 'here', but that's irrelevant--that will reveal itself at some point.

But I can guess--though the guessing is a waste of precious time.

Let it go, Mel.
Opened hands, Mel.

TODAY, Mel....

Sometimes I awaken to truths about others that scream truth about Mel.

Yup.
That's not an all bad thing.

Opened hands, Mel.
Let it GO, Mel.
T.O.D.A.Y., Mel......

Fenced awakenings

You think you know and you discover you don't.

All that you believed, illusions.
Denial of truth? Chaser of dreams? Creator of what was never true; just a wish for different.

There's a truth applied to all human beings--when push comes to shove it's about 'what's in it for me'. That's human nature from Eve forward. I discovered what is true one more time. People cannot betray their human-ness even when they desire selflessness. They are human. Forgive them anyway. And walk proud that it wasn't your turn to sefishly defend what is yours. Your turn will come....it always does.....

It's your human-ness.......

Today's Fairy Thought

Is there someone against whom, you are holding an upset? Is there something you need to say or ask that you have been withholding? Is today the day you become willing to lay down all grievances and make peace with yourself and others? Are you waiting for "them" to make the first move? The most loving thing you can do for yourself is to be willing to surrender all upsets and grievances and make the first move toward peace. Why not make the call today? Have no expectations. Just make the call and open the door. You can do it! I know you can.

Snack Time!!

Thought For The Day

Embrace and love all of yourself - past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.

Pat yourself on the back when necessary. Discipline yourself when necessary. Ask for help, for time; ask for what you need.

We work at it, and then work at it some more. One day we'll wake up, look in the mirror, and find that loving ourselves has become habitual. We're now living with a person who gives and receives love, because that person loves him or herself. Self-love will take hold and become a guiding force in our life.