Funny, that.

Funny that you mentioned going to a meeting tonight—I’m going to go to one myself.

Wow—that was cool to hear outta his mouth.  And a genuinely nice  surprise.

Himself decided he’s tired of only noting the ***holes of the world, that he’s tired of being angry and cynical-- and that he needs to get some help in looking at things differently. 

Oh, and he’s worried we’re drifting apart given I’ve gotten even more involved in the recovery community. 

Go figure, despite my telling him it’s NOT about him, he’d secretly think that it WAS about him. 
Yes, I’m going to two more meetings a week.  But I’m not ‘gone’ more than I was—the meetings slipped into holes I used for sponsoring others—cuz they need less of my time than they used to require.  Sheeeeeeeeshhhhhh……k…….HIS perception.  I guess now I know what the squirrels in his head are telling him, huh?

And wooohooo that he’s decided maybe going to some meetings would be beneficial to him!!  I wanted to do cartwheels—‘cept we’ve been here before and he went twice….and was done with it again.

Bit he went last night and he was fairly pleased—I’m gonna be hopeful about that continuing.  And if it doesn’t—I guess that’s okay, too.  He’ll just have to run it til the wheels fall off.

I try to stay out of his business—I can love him and want things for him, but he’s got his own choices to make.  The folks around the tables will validate and encourage that.

He certainly doesn’t try to dissuade me from making my choices……well, ‘cept for the times he tosses out “If that’s what you believe G-d wants you to do”, which is ammunition I never shoulda handed to him long ago cuz he’ll use it

He might go to another meeting tonight, he told me. 

In fact there’s an A.A. meeting AND an AlAnon meeting in the same building at the same time, if you wanted to go along. 

I tried not to laugh cuz he made it sound like that was an anomaly. 

I passed on the invitation and offered up a different night of the week. See,  I have a group I’m accountable to on Tuesday nights—I’ve committed myself to be present…….every week. “ It’s kinda what builds relationships and makes it all work—we can get through things with a little help from our friends”…….which is when I started singing and  hoping he mighta actually HEARD what I was saying to him.

If not—darn it, guess he’ll run it til the wheels fall off OR he’ll just stay doing what he’s doing and  getting what he’s getting.

But for today—pretty cool the AlAnon book is out on the coffee table again.