Some of us live within a framework of shame. One symptom of this is we minimize our achievements, feelings, needs, or opinions. Behind that is our feeling that we aren't and can't do anything special. So it figures we would find a way to discount whatever we do.
Two words we use frequently are "just" and "only." We say things like, "Our house has only two bedrooms" or "I only got a red ribbon at the state fair, and my tomatoes didn't place" or "I'll just eat these leftovers for dinner, and you can have the steak." These are ways of saying, "I don't count." But, of course, we do count.
How freeing it is to grow to the place where we say, "I've only entered the state fair once and I won a ribbon. I'm proud of myself." Or, "No, I don't want the leftovers either. Let's share the steak." We give strength to minimizing attitudes when we use minimizing words. We deserve better.
Today, I will not minimize my achievements or needs. I will give someone an honest opinion about an issue that matters to me.
6 comments:
I needed this
thank you
I agree. Being impeccable with your word is a golden rule but when you use it against yourself, it becomes devastating with lasting effect. It all begins with you.
Great words. Thanks.
Peace!....with 2 fingers;)
Great words. I could have saved myself time at work if I'd handed out these today instead of talking!
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So true...I have some ladies that work for me that I am going to share this with...
*giggle*
I generally make us share the steak and the leftovers. Does that mean we both count about half?
But I'll be on the lookout for 'just' and 'only' from now on!
Fab-u-lous Fairy Wisdom!!!!
3 cheers!
I can't tell you how many times I catch myself using those exact words - 'only' and 'just' - and as soon as I say them, I immediately feel that I've discounted myself.
So, I will now remember....
"Today, I will not minimize my achievements or needs. I will give someone an honest opinion about an issue that matters to me."
Thanks fairies!
And thank YOU, Mel!
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