Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers.
--Susan Marcotte
Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a protective covering. We've caught them by surprise before, and they didn't like it. Now they've learned to watch out - to stay on their toes when we're around. Intimidating people, making them glad when we're not around so they can relax, is a poor way to relate to others.
And what do the outbursts do for us? Is there a cheap sense of power or control for a few minutes? Are we advertising to the world that we're short on coping skills? Or do we tell ourselves that letting off steam is necessary once in a while, conveniently forgetting the steam blasting in other people's faces?
No tirade ever solved a problem. Anger is not a strategy. We don't have the right to rain on other people's parades. Our program can teach us better ways to deal with our anger - with honesty and fairness to ourselves and others.
Today, I ask my Higher Power for a peaceful and honest heart.
--Susan Marcotte
Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a protective covering. We've caught them by surprise before, and they didn't like it. Now they've learned to watch out - to stay on their toes when we're around. Intimidating people, making them glad when we're not around so they can relax, is a poor way to relate to others.
And what do the outbursts do for us? Is there a cheap sense of power or control for a few minutes? Are we advertising to the world that we're short on coping skills? Or do we tell ourselves that letting off steam is necessary once in a while, conveniently forgetting the steam blasting in other people's faces?
No tirade ever solved a problem. Anger is not a strategy. We don't have the right to rain on other people's parades. Our program can teach us better ways to deal with our anger - with honesty and fairness to ourselves and others.
Today, I ask my Higher Power for a peaceful and honest heart.
1 comment:
"I accept the inevitability of loneliness as I struggle to be understood."
I am guilty of having anger outbursts. And although I never was violent and hit anyone, I was a jerk to the extent that I made the lives of those around me miserable. Now, I still have that reputation neven though I have tamed my temper for the most part.
It's too late to have people look at me and see that I have changed and now I live with how I am perceived. Probably why I do so good on the blogs. None of you have ever seen my outbursts.
All that said, I still try daily to not act out on anger and follow the serenity prayer.
Thanks Mel and Fairies.
Peace
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