Stop building cases
You don't have to build a big drama around your life. We may need to end a relationship or explore a new career. Instead of simply saying, This is what I'm going to do, we build a case.
Like a lawyer getting ready to go to court, we prepare our arguments. We take one feeling and build a hundred page document around it, prepared to battle our case.
You can build cases if you want to. But usually, there's a hidden feeling underneath all that case building that's asking to be cleared. It could be a tinge of guilt or fear. Or it could just be the belief that it's not okay to clearly express ourselves, say how it feels to us, and do what we need to do to take care of ourselves.
Let go of the drama. Just say what you need and how it feels to you.
Be as simple and clear as you can in expressing yourself. If you find yourself building a case or creating a big dramatic scene, take a moment. Why are you making such a fuss?
God, help me keep it simple, especially when it comes to expressing myself.
You don't have to build a big drama around your life. We may need to end a relationship or explore a new career. Instead of simply saying, This is what I'm going to do, we build a case.
Like a lawyer getting ready to go to court, we prepare our arguments. We take one feeling and build a hundred page document around it, prepared to battle our case.
You can build cases if you want to. But usually, there's a hidden feeling underneath all that case building that's asking to be cleared. It could be a tinge of guilt or fear. Or it could just be the belief that it's not okay to clearly express ourselves, say how it feels to us, and do what we need to do to take care of ourselves.
Let go of the drama. Just say what you need and how it feels to you.
Be as simple and clear as you can in expressing yourself. If you find yourself building a case or creating a big dramatic scene, take a moment. Why are you making such a fuss?
God, help me keep it simple, especially when it comes to expressing myself.
3 comments:
My ex did exactly that. I could never understand why. A simple thing like declining an invitation was built up to incorporate a hundred excuses whereas 'sorry, I can't make it' would have sufficed.
This is so clever and sort of subtle. It's a great way to think.
Excellent reading today, Mel!
And one that I needed to hear because today I didn't express myself too well. Actually, I didn't even express myself, I just had a hissy fit - HA!
"God, help me keep it simple, especially when it comes to expressing myself."
Amen!
Thanks for this awesome reminder, dear lady!
(((( Mel ))))
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