Listen: safe to say that most men who want to communicate, who would use that word, are shameless
and their souls long ago have drifted out of their bodies to faraway, unpolluted air.
Such men no doubt have learned women are starved for communication, that it’s the new way
to get new women, a nd admission of weakness works best of all.
Even some smart women are fooled, though the smartest know that to communicate is a form of withholding, a commercial for intimacy while the heart hides in its little pocket of words.
And women use the word too, everyone who doesn’t have the gift of communication uses it.
It’s like the abused asking for love, never having known what it feels like, not trusting it if it lacks pain.
But let’s say that a good man and a good woman, with no motives other than desire for greater closeness, who’ve heard communication is the answer, sign up for a course at the Y, seek counseling, set aside two hours in the week for significant talk.
What hope for them?
Should we tell them very little, or none at all?
As little or none as there is for us, who’ve cut right to the heart, and still conceal, who’ve loved many times well into the night in good silence and have awakened, strangely distant, thinking thoughts no one should ever know?
Commitment is more than just a mental exercise. 
2 comments:
most cases
sometimes there is nothing one can do tho
:-/
Listen: safe to say
that most men
who want to communicate,
who would use that word,
are shameless
and their souls long ago
have drifted
out of their bodies
to faraway, unpolluted air.
Such men no doubt have learned women are starved
for communication,
that it’s the new way
to get new women, a
nd admission of weakness
works best of all.
Even some smart women are fooled,
though the smartest know
that to communicate
is a form of withholding,
a commercial for intimacy
while the heart
hides in its little
pocket of words.
And women use the word too,
everyone who doesn’t have the gift
of communication uses it.
It’s like the abused
asking for love,
never having known
what it feels like,
not trusting it
if it lacks pain.
But let’s say
that a good man
and a good woman,
with no motives other than desire
for greater closeness,
who’ve heard communication
is the answer,
sign up for a course at the Y,
seek counseling,
set aside two hours in the week
for significant talk.
What hope for them?
Should we tell them
very little, or none at all?
As little or none
as there is for us,
who’ve cut right to the heart,
and still conceal,
who’ve loved many times
well into the night
in good silence
and have awakened,
strangely distant,
thinking thoughts
no one should ever know?
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