It is often the fear of rejection that makes us afraid to give of ourselves. The person who is reluctant to share may be holding back because of this fear. To share is to reveal who we are and where we are. If we feel inadequate, we do not want to expose this imagined inadequacy to other people.
If our self-image is too grand and inflated, we cannot possibly live up to it in reality. Expecting ourselves to be perfect sets us up for frustration and fear, since we know deep down that we do not measure up to our image of perfection.
With humility comes the willingness to give of what we have and what we are right now, without waiting until we are more eloquent or more accomplished. What we have to share is what someone else needs to receive. By focusing more on the needs of others and less on the imaginary concept of ourselves, which is our ego, we learn to overcome our fear of giving. What we have to give now is enough for today.
3 comments:
" By focusing more on the needs of others and less on the imaginary concept of ourselves, which is our ego, we learn to overcome our fear of giving"
Mel, I love this sentiment! I feel like often we are too afraid to fail and look less than perfect that we are ultimately afraid to try. This post is such a good reminder that we are all human and none of us are perfect that all we can do is put our best foot forward and try to help others.
Funny, I highlighted the same sentence that Shae did....
"By focusing more on the needs of others and less on the imaginary concept of ourselves, which is our ego, we learn to overcome our fear of giving."
And ditto to her comment!
Wonderful reminder, Mel!
Much thanks!
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Ah yes....
I so wish that a few people from the past would have grasped that. Pride is u.g.l.y. and makes people to unkind things than would never take place when there is humility.
Now, me...okay...still working on it. Easier to see specks elsewhere even when I have a log jam. [wink]
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