Our need for approval compels us to try to look good - no matter what's going on. We imagine that somehow everything will be okay as long as it looks okay. Our hearts may be breaking from fear, disillusionment, and rejection, real or imagined, but we keep smiling so that no one will guess.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Is it so hard to turn to a friend and say, "Hey, I'm hurting. I've been having a bad time and I need help"? Would the earth tremble if we said it right out, just like that?
We're not likely to get what we don't ask for.
Instead of denying that our knees are shaking, our hands are sweating, and our stomachs are in torment, we can admit and share the truth. We don't have to say "Fine!" when someone asks us how we're doing. Our real friends aren't impressed by stiff upper lips; they're impressed by personal honesty.
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I agree. It takes a long time to learn new habits and change those characer flaws, but I'm trying, little by little.
Thanks for these reminders and the encouragement through your struggles and the words of the wise Fairies.
Friday today, eh? Hope the day moves by fast and the weekend holds some enjoyment for you and yours.
Peace
I adore this reading today because I was thinking of posting something about our need for approval, so the fairies were reading my mind!
I agree....
"We don't have to say "Fine!" when someone asks us how we're doing. Our real friends aren't impressed by stiff upper lips; they're impressed by personal honesty."
Right on!
Thank you for this reminder, fairies! And thank YOU too, Mel!
Hope you had a great Friday!
X
Um.
Er.
Um.
I'll think about that but I'm not sure I can do it in the real world - it's ok here but .... um.
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