It is not about being right.It's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are.
That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that functioned on the "right/wrong" justice scale.
The person who was right was okay; the person who was wrong was shamed.
All value and worth may have depended on being right; to be wrong meant annihilation of self and self-esteem.
We are learning how to strive for love in our relationships, not superiority.
Yes, we may need to make decisions about people's behavior from time to time.
If someone is hurting us, we need to stand up for ourselves.
We have a responsibility to set boundaries and take care of ourselves.
But we do not need to justify taking care of ourselves by condemning someone else.
We can avoid the trap of focusing on others instead of ourselves.
Yes, we may need to make decisions about people's behavior from time to time.
If someone is hurting us, we need to stand up for ourselves.
We have a responsibility to set boundaries and take care of ourselves.
But we do not need to justify taking care of ourselves by condemning someone else.
We can avoid the trap of focusing on others instead of ourselves.
We are learning that what we do needs to be right only for us.
What others do is their business and needs to be right only for them.
It's tempting to rest in the superiority of being right and in analyzing other people's motives and actions, but it's more rewarding to look deeper.
What others do is their business and needs to be right only for them.
It's tempting to rest in the superiority of being right and in analyzing other people's motives and actions, but it's more rewarding to look deeper.
3 comments:
Whoever wrote this is NOT a "red",are they? :)
I should stop skipping over the "fairy" posts...
OK
so, I have spent so much time doing this:
rest in the superiority of being right and in analyzing other people's motives and actions
thinking I was doing this: it's more rewarding to look deeper
that when I eventually got around to this:
learning that what we do needs to be right only for us;
what others do is their business and needs to be right only for them
...I realised that what is right for me, is not right for him (the not hardly ever mentioned on the blog h*sband); and he knows the same about what is right for him/me; and now we are in that truck you were talking about further up the top. . . used to be me being all cross and him asleep under the tree; now he's gone off all cranky, I've gone to sleep under a pine tree
we're both so exhausted and hurt by the realisaiton that neither of us has the energy to do anything right now
do the fairies ever let you have a short rest to gather your energies?
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