"I can't. I shouldn't. It's my fault." These self-abasing and self-defeating thoughts are expressions of shame. Because repeated thoughts turn into beliefs and long-held beliefs turn into actions, thoughts rooted in shame can lead to tragedy.
People who live in shame come to believe that it is not okay to make a mistake. They imagine they should know what to do without having to learn it. They think their wrong judgments mean they themselves are wrong.
But it is human to make mistakes. If we acknowledge we are human, we are defining ourselves as people who always have something to learn. We are saying we have to keep going if our plans don't work out right away.
"Thou shalt not be human" is the command of shame. What rubbish! How can we be anything else? Why would we want to be?
4 comments:
Makes me thinkmof p[opeye the Saolor.
"I am what I am and that's all that I am"
I am human. I make mistakes. One I didn't make was to be a friend of yours.
Peace
PS I posted today, and Shjame is the theme. Like minds, eh?
You also learn much more from making a mistake than you do when everything runs smoothly!
C x
very wise words, ones that I don't want to forget.
yup, mistakes. . .
own plenty of those - and a little obut of the learning that goes with them
thank you for the reminder
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