We all need the time, space and opportunity to vent our anger, frustration or dissatisfaction with the world.
Unfortunately, those closest to us bear the brunt of our emotions when we do not release them.
If loved ones take their frustration out on us, we must try not to take it personally; and never, never tell them they don't really feel that way.
We must learn to honor others' feelings and support them in expressing how they feel.
If they say things to us that are painful or angry, we must separate what is truth and what is unreal.
Parents must find a way to express their feelings without taking it out on the children.
If we are tired, we should say so.
If we are angry, we should take a walk before we go home.
If we allow ourselves to say what we really feel, when we feel it, and try listening and not responding, we would probably have a lot less to fight about.
When we express what we feel the moment we feel it, it won't get mixed in with everything else.
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morning. uh, it's early & I need another cup of coffee. um. about feelings. My biggest challenge is connecting a feeling back to its point of origin. Most of my strong (negative) feelings like anger might be triggered by a small event in the present, but remind me of something much worse that happened long ago. And of course, my feeling is tied to the past. I'm getting better, but that is a struggle when trying to live transcendentally. thinking of you.
More wise advice. I feel good that I can't even remeber the last time I had a fight with Mrs. S. Yes, it's been that long.
I'll ponder this a while longer and try my best to set it into place.
Thanks
Peace
OMG. that one had my name on it.
I have a wonderful man but, with a job that is not as hot.
I sometimes get caught in the middle...
We always make up, and always talk about how things such.
Kissing helps, too :)
P.S. Mel thats me, Barbara on the WP photo blog. Those are my non-active blogs on blogger...
This is one of those readings that I should read every single day, because I'm a reactor. I react instantly how I feel and it's not always a pretty sight - HA!
Believe it or not, BLOGGING has taught me such a wonderful lesson in 'pausing' before I speak. And I think it's because I have time to 'process' my feelings before reacting to a post so that I can respond truthfully, but constructively.
Great reading, Mel!
Thank you, dear lady!
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That "and never, never tell them they don't really feel that way." rings a bell. You can't sort something out between you if you don't accept that it exists!
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