Hurting someone thoughtlessly just to lift our own guilt is not a proper amends.
Amends are for rebuilding the burned bridges in our lives.
But if amends will hurt someone, we must decide if it's in that person's best interest to be told now.
Oftentimes it's best left unsaid, but never denied to ourselves or to God.
Changing our behavior intentionally is one part of making amends, particularly to those who may have heard us say "I'm sorry" far too many times.
Repaying money, repairing damages, and making charitable contributions on behalf of the person we have harmed are all honest attempts to right our wrong.
The point in every amends attempt is to take responsibility for what we did and express our regrets.
Couple this with changed behavior, and our relationships will improve immediately.
7 comments:
Agreed...'but never denied...'
This fairy, got up on the wrong side of the bed I think.
I mean the words are good, but harsh, as if we all need a good telling off. And I haven't been bad... honest!
xx
Some of steps 4 and 5, then steps 8 and 9 and continuing on step 10 into oblivion.
Very wise indeed. A great post!
Best wishes,
Skeeter
*chuckling* Ohhhh....a step talking fella!
Yep--step 10 into oblivion. Some of my best living comes when I quit talking and start doing. Especially when I don't wanna!
Oh, how little I know about what's well and truly good for me until I shush up and just DO it.
Sometimes my best thinking just needs to leave me alone! ;-)
Don't get the wrong idea about me. I really don't talk the steps, but that passage reminded me of the ones I mentioned. I should have explained. I don't need another false reputation:-)
PS I do attend a meeting once per week. But it's not for the usual step stuff. I'll keep you guessing for now and divulge the real me some other time.
Peace.
a very interesting piece
thank you fairies
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